I got hijacked by an email. This morning I received an email concerning a work issue. The issue has been an ongoing problem for 3 years. It will probably never be solved because it swirls around beliefs. And it is hard to change someone's beliefs even with facts. I logically know this but I let this email hijack my life for 2 hours.
I spend two hours ranting and raving about this damn email. I was threatening taking off earrings and putting Vaseline on my face. I was ready to fight. I couldn't respond to the email because I didn't trust what I would say. The more I got upset about the email the more pissed I got that I was pissed about the email. My husband finally talked me off the edge. My entire morning was gone. I didn't get any work done nor did I change the belief associated with the email.
I had totally given my power, energy and thoughts to someone else. I had been hijacked. After I calmed down I instantly started thinking of ways to prevent or minimize the next hijacking. A few things I came up with are:
1. Breathing - If I had taken a few minutes to solely focus on my breathe I may have been able to get myself off the edge. It may have taken me more than a few minutes but I would have been able to regroup. You don't need to go anywhere special or sit on a cushion. Just step away from the swirling emotions and breathe in deep counting to five and then release. Repeat until you feel the shift in your body. I promise you will feel it.
2. Movement - In order to slow down the runaway feelings you have to reconnect to your body. Another way besides the breathe is movement. And I don't mean random movement of flailing arms or specific movement of a middle finger. It has to be focused movement that forces you to feel your body. Yoga is a great way to do this but you can't roll out your yoga mat at work and to a downward facing dog. But you can find a quiet space like the bathroom and do a forward fold. This can give you similar effects as a downward dog or headstand. The increase blood to the brain calms your nervous system and helps reduce the stress. It also changes your blood flow to your heart and respiratory system thus slowing your heart rate and increasing oxygen intake. Which, helps you to calm down.
3. Look at the other person's perspective - Okay, step back and try to see the issue from the other person's viewpoint. The majority of the time things that we get worked up about aren't personal. The other person is responding from they limited perspective. They are responding to a perceived threat, real or imaginary, that really has nothing to do with you. You just happen to be the messenger. They could also be responding this way from a lack of knowledge. So, try seeing how they got to the view they have. You don't have to agree with them. You just need to be open to understanding their view. You also need to think about how you could have contributed to the problem. Could you have voiced your opinion a different way, did you communicate clearly or was your "smart-ass" statement really needed? Alway try to take credit for the drama you add to your life.
I'm still getting hijacked by other peoples issues but I'm not staying on the Tarmac as long.
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